For as long as I can remember, I used push up bras as a crutch, and they only troubled my self-esteem in regards to my chest. On one hand, I felt better in them, as I looked "better" than I would in my ill fitting 32A's and B padded balconette bras, but on the other hand I felt horrible. Inadequate, because at the end of the day, it was just padding that made me look better, but it also made me feel worse. There's a strange two sided opinion on push up bras in general: people who wear push up bras are faking it, but small breasts are bad and deserve to be ridiculed. A vicious circle: I was ashamed for my small breasts, so I wore push up bras, but I was ashamed for exclusively wearing them.
|Freya Deco Moulded Soft Cup in 28E vs a Push Up Bra in 32B|
When I became well fitted, my need for push up bras virtually disappeared. As you can see, I look much better in a well fitting bra than in a push up bra!
A while back, I received an email from a reader, asking for recommendations for push up bras in a 28DD. I was happy to help her, although I couldn't help but feel slightly mad at the world that this girl, who recently found out her well fitted size, was still on the look-out for push up bras. I cursed Wonderbra and that damned ad campaign internally. Ten minutes later however, it dawned to me that if she wants to wear them, who am I to demand that push up bras should cease to exist?
For the record, I don't judge anyone for wearing or wanting to wear push up bras. They're not the solution for negative feelings about your small breasts, but I do understand how a well fitting push up bra can help in some way. The key here being well fitted, in a well fitting size and shape for your breasts.
Lately, my relationship with push up bras has become less complicated and present, helped by the model's scarcity in sub-32 bands. The Deco Half Cup, the first one I owned in my well fitted size, was sold pretty quickly. The fit wasn't great, and astoundingly, after wearing it a few times I find myself looking too big - I can still barely believe this, but here I was, not liking the look and preferring the look I got when wearing non-push up moulded bras. I considered a step forward; genuinely liking how my breasts looked without copious amounts of padding.
I did go and try more push up bras out of curiosity: I tried the Gossard Egoboost Plunge (review still to come, but spoiler alert: it was a disaster for my shallow breasts), the Sun's push up bra of the year, and the Gossard Egoboost Bandeau Bikini Top (review to come, pictured above), based on the Egoboost Strapless. The latter did not give me any cleavage, or much push up for that matter, but it truly is a gorgeous bikini. I feel as if I can now wear them without deeply loathing my chest and it's shortcomings, and to me, that is a huge step. It may have been years late, but I'm glad to have finally taken it.
Ultimately, I understand why a small-busted person would want to wear a push up bra - sometimes you just want a bit of a boost, or just because you like the way they look on you. Whatever the reasoning may be, make sure that it is one that doesn't harm you mentally at the end of the day.
Will I try more push up bras?
Sure, why not.
Will I fall apart after wearing one for the entire day and cry while taking it off?
No. Not anymore.